Moving on from a past relationship was never easy, especially if you have been together for a long time. It is hard. No shortcuts. You will go through a process. The pain and sadness are like a cloud following you anywhere and everywhere. The pain will stick to you for quite a while. Moving on is easier said than done. But there are ways that can help you to do so. Try your hardest to follow these helpful tips.
Who knows maybe after all the pain and hardships, one day you will just suddenly wake up and the pain is gone.
Accept the fact that you are no longer in a relationship. He or She is gone. There is nothing you can do to bring it back. Some would say that after the breakup, it would feel like death. Well, it is the death of a relationship, isn’t it? Embrace the grief, understand that you need to undergo this phase in order to move on. Cry whenever you feel like crying. Cry all the pain out. Acknowledge and accept all the crazy emotions you are going through. You will feel sad, angry, hate, sorry, disappointed, etc. Embrace all of these whenever you feel them and then let these emotions go.
Cut off any form of contact
For real, cut every way of communication. No text, call, email, and no stalking on social media. I know this one is hard, for you want to know what they are up to in their social media right? But understand that you need this absence to process your feelings and emotions. This will help you, every time you have the urge to desperately get back to them whenever you miss them.
Focus on the new you
So after days, weeks or maybe months of crying and not washing, it is time to get out and focus your energy on improving yourself. Maybe get a new haircut, enroll in a gym, pursue your hobbies, and find a new passion. You will then discover that there is more to life than your ex.
Spend time with your loved ones
This step will help you realize that there are other people around you who loves and cares for you. This will bring back a sense of normalcy to your life.
Accept the fact, he/she is not the one
Fixations over you and your ex back together are never healthy. It will make you linger and hope for more on the relationship that ended. This is what will keep you from moving on. Accept the fact that he/she is not the one for you. Because if he/she really is, then no problem is insurmountable between you two. No one will give up. But if one already gave up, then that is a clear sign that he/she is not the one for you.
Be with your friends
Going through this phase is hard. Your friends perfectly know that and they are here to help and support you. That is why you do not have to do this on your own. Go out and be with them. Cry your heart out loud with them. They are the only people who can withstand your unending stories about your pain and break up and they are the ones who can make you laugh once again.
Do what you love
While the previous steps focus on you facing your internal emotions, it is also important to get out and do the things you used to love. What were your hobbies before? Your passion? Maybe you used to love running, cooking, movie marathon, swimming, traveling, and the list goes on. Just do what makes you happy and excited.
Meet new people
Sometimes by pursuing your hobbies and new passion, you get to meet new people. This is healthy as it makes you think that there is more to life. Go out and have fun with these new people. But that doesn’t mean that you need to jump into a new relationship because of this. Remember, allow yourself this time to heal and just enjoy yourself and your new company.
Know that there is someone out there for you
You have possibly been in a lot of crazy and unsuccessful relationship, but always remember that they all did not work out for a reason. Once you are fully healed and moved on, try again, who knows, your next one might be your “the one” right?